THE TRUTH ABOUT LYING…

STOP LYING IT IS REFRESHINGLY LIBERATING Black lies, grey lies, white lies, those who exaggerate, manipulate, deceive, and of course, pathological liars and compulsive liars…Nothing damages relationships more. Lying destroys the trust on which healthy relationships are build. Many people state that everyone lies. They stress that lying to a certain extent is needed as […]

BOUNDARIES @ WORK

The importance of identifying, discussing and honouring boundaries at work and having clear boundaries between personal and professional life I imagined myself talking to a few people who are eager to start a career and those who are ready to move up the ladder becoming a supervisor, manager and leader. The message I would like […]

Memory, Loftus, Frankl & Fromm

Memory From Loftus to Frankl to Fromm How a famous researcher, cognitive psychologist, expert on memories; a psychiatrist and Nazi camp survivor and a Neo-Freudian psychologist and philosopher can help those suffering from painful memories to heal, make sense of it all and to be able to love…. Therapists have done a lot wrong and although […]

Empathy: Rogers & Goleman

Empathy: Rogers & Goleman and satisfying interpersonal relationships Carl Rogers (1902-1987) remains an influential psychotherapist. Rogers, the founder of the client-centered approach, with its foundations in humanistic psychology is mostly known for the concepts of unconditional positive regard and empathy. Rogers was the first who was not afraid of doing research to find out what […]

Sex Addiction-Porn Addiction ?

  Sex Addiction-Porn Addiction ?  In general, we can safely state that when behaviour (thoughts and actions) start to negatively affect daily functioning and relationships, there is a problem and it will need attention before it gets better. Based on this assumption, one could ask whether it matters what a behaviour is called, if it […]

Darth Vader, Anger & Dr. Marshall

Darth Vader, Anger and Dr. Marshall A lot has been written about Star Wars and its characters. Some French psychologists even went that far to diagnose Darth Vader with Bipolar Personality Disorder (BPD). They later defended themselves with the statement that during training, it makes sense to have a “proto typical” example that is known […]

Feeling Lost: Emotions-Feelings-Values

    Feeling Lost: Emotions-Feelings-Values At times we feel lost and wonder whether we are still on-track. This discussion might be helpful. I start this discussion with emotions and feelings and will end with values. Emotions are universal and hard wired in the brain. They are a reaction to environmental stimuli (triggers) and occur automatically and […]