FRUSTRATIONS of a Counselling Therapist

This post is written to clear up some confusion. One of them is on who is trained to do therapeutic work. Another frequently asked question is what the difference is between therapy and counselling. A third confusion is the relationship between mental and physical health. A fourth one is in regards to depression and anxiety […]

BIRTHDAYS…BAH! HUMBUG

Let’s make that dreaded birthday count… If you are a person who dreads the unavoidable yearly event of yet another birthday, you are not alone. There are ample narratives of the “fundatory” celebrations at offices. Another one often mentioned is the “Secret Valentine”, a tradition which makes some of us profoundly uncomfortable. To add one […]

NO, THERE IS NO APP FOR THAT!

One of the compulsory classes I recall vividly, was a demonstration of our competencies as a therapist. The fishbowl technique was used. Two trainees were placed in the middle of a circle. One was playing the role of the client and the other of the therapist. And there I was, floating nervously, feeling exposed and […]

ERICH FROMM & LOVE

Erich Fromm & Love  Many couples are doing well in most aspects. They have a home, a family and a career and on the surface (and Social Media) they live the happy life. How come that the number of couples seeking counselling is increasing? In the first place it might be because seeking help is […]

OBITUARY & TWITTER

Obituary & Twitter  Obituaries, I do read them. Often it is the photos that draw in my attention. It is something in the people’s face and how they look in the camera or at the person taking the picture. Sometimes the photos are old. At other times, people place two: One often taken at a […]

THE TRUTH ABOUT LYING…

STOP LYING IT IS REFRESHINGLY LIBERATING Black lies, grey lies, white lies, those who exaggerate, manipulate, deceive, and of course, pathological liars and compulsive liars…Nothing damages relationships more. Lying destroys the trust on which healthy relationships are build. Many people state that everyone lies. They stress that lying to a certain extent is needed as […]

Memory, Loftus, Frankl & Fromm

Memory From Loftus to Frankl to Fromm How a famous researcher, cognitive psychologist, expert on memories; a psychiatrist and Nazi camp survivor and a Neo-Freudian psychologist and philosopher can help those suffering from painful memories to heal, make sense of it all and to be able to love…. Therapists have done a lot wrong and although […]