Empathy: Rogers & Goleman

Empathy: Rogers & Goleman and satisfying interpersonal relationships Carl Rogers (1902-1987) remains an influential psychotherapist. Rogers, the founder of the client-centered approach, with its foundations in humanistic psychology is mostly known for the concepts of unconditional positive regard and empathy. Rogers was the first who was not afraid of doing research to find out what […]

Sex Addiction-Porn Addiction ?

  Sex Addiction-Porn Addiction ?  In general, we can safely state that when behaviour (thoughts and actions) start to negatively affect daily functioning and relationships, there is a problem and it will need attention before it gets better. Based on this assumption, one could ask whether it matters what a behaviour is called, if it […]

Darth Vader, Anger & Dr. Marshall

Darth Vader, Anger and Dr. Marshall A lot has been written about Star Wars and its characters. Some French psychologists even went that far to diagnose Darth Vader with Bipolar Personality Disorder (BPD). They later defended themselves with the statement that during training, it makes sense to have a “proto typical” example that is known […]

Feeling Lost: Emotions-Feelings-Values

    Feeling Lost: Emotions-Feelings-Values At times we feel lost and wonder whether we are still on-track. This discussion might be helpful. I start this discussion with emotions and feelings and will end with values. Emotions are universal and hard wired in the brain. They are a reaction to environmental stimuli (triggers) and occur automatically and […]

Physical Intimacy

Physical Intimacy  Let’s talk about sex. I mean let us really talk about it! Recent media attention on sexual harassment and sexual misconduct and the #MeToo movement has brought a variety of issues to the forefront. Slowly, it becomes clear that we might be discussing behaviours falling on a spectrum that vary from levels of […]

Communication

COMMUNICATION Respectful and effective communication is of crucial importance in any relationship. It prevents disconnection, conflict and heartache in committed relationships. Good communication means making time for each other and not allowing interruptions. It means sitting together and listening to each other about what is going on. When you are both calm, you can address […]